5 Qualities You Need To Have If You Want To Be In-charge Of Your Own Life

Many wise people have repeatedly said that if you don’t chase your own dreams, someone else will make you chase theirs.

It is very important to be in charge of your life and not let others make decisions for you. The driver’s wheel must be in your hand because your life is like a car that is running on a road to an unknown destination.

George Eliot said, “It’s never too late to be who you might have been.”

If you find yourself constantly being judged by others and being told what to do – when your opinions are not heard and your voice is suppressed then this is what you should do.

Inculcating these five qualities will help you be the boss of your own  life:

1. Self-respect:

No one in this world will respect you if you don’t respect yourself. Simple and real. Don’t expect others to take you seriously when you don’t do so yourself. Standing up to yourself is one of the priceless gifts you can give to that soul that is whimpering beneath your body to get heard. Start respecting yourself, don’t allow anyone else to mistreat you. It might be difficult at first but later you’ll see your life beginning to change.

2. Self-love:

It is okay to love someone with all your heart and go to great lengths for that person. But it is not okay to let the ones you love take your for a ride and humiliate you – simply because it is convenient. Love yourself first, before you start loving someone else. And just like you would pamper the one you love, pamper yourself and see the difference!

3.Forgive once, twice not forever:

It is okay to give second or even third chances to people who have hurt you, insulted you or come in your way and harmed you. But if you keep giving them chances without seeing that their asking for forgiveness is completely a shallow show of feeling, you will never get out of the being-the-victim-cycle. Forgive if you must but step away from repeat offenders so that they cannot do it to you again.

Say this out loud to yourself – “I am not to be taken for granted.”

4. Stop self-pity:

Don’t look at yourself like some meek creature who doesn’t have anywhere to go. Stop pitying yourself for the things that have happened to you in the past. When you stop doing that, you’ll see that most of the things that happen to us are somewhere consequences of our own actions. The minute you do away with the emotion of self-pity, you are in control of your life.

5. Integrity:

Bob Marley once said, “The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.”

Have strong moral principles, let go of the fear of being the only voice of dissent when the mob screams in assent, don’t think twice before doing the right thing no matter what be the consequences and try to be an example for others to follow. No one was born with integrity, it is always brewed.

See what these qualities do to you in life and tell us in the comments below!

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Heer Khant
Heer Khant

Traveller | Writer | Photographer | Maverick | Social Worker | Lawyer | A freedom-loving woman for whom words are like wings to her soul. She believes in aliens, hates boundaries and lives like the first human on Earth.

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