“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on,” said Robert Frost. Unlike how we expect life to be, it is a mixture of ups and downs, low and highs. There are innumerable times in life when we feel lost. When everything that we do seems pointless.
Nothing that we once did feels meaningful and finding happiness becomes a task. We feel like that traveller in the hot desert in search of an oasis, repeatedly running into several mirages.
If you are sailing in that boat, here are five things you should remember:
1. It is a phase:
Remember the Persian saying, ‘This too shall pass’? Remember that is just a down phase in your life and things will be different again. Life is about constant change. If you are feeling lost today, tomorrow you will be in the crowd again walking with purpose.
2. It is natural to be lost:
You cannot find direction without being lost. Being lost is a part and parcel of life. Accept it and let it flow. Don’t try to push yourself into a zone that you do not like. Everyone goes through the phase, it is really not as uncommon as you think.
3. For something to begin, another thing must end:
It might feel like the end of the world but that is actually good. How will you begin something new if something old does not end? It is just a turn in the road even though it might feel like a dead end.
4. People only share the golden moments, not the black ones:
In this century, our time is preoccupied with the social media. You scroll through the lives of people and think that your life sucks. That is when you need to remember that no one shares moments from their rough times online. They only share the good.
5. Being alone is not always a bad thing:
There is a difference in being alone and in being lonely. Being alone can bring you a variety of realisations which being in the crowd won’t. We come alone, we go alone don’t we? Learn to embrace your own company.
Sunsets and sunrises are a solid inspiration. There will always be another sunrise and another sunset. It is okay to feel what you are feeling.