We are living in a time when people can type entire essays on their phones with ease – such is our speed of texting. More than calling or meeting each other, we text. We text to tell how we are, what we are doing and even about our most secret emotions.
When it comes to relationships, texting plays a huge role. It can make or break your relationship. It is no longer like the old times when dating was all about meeting each other. These days everything can happen in texts – sexting too is a huge fad that may not really be short-lived.
According to a recent research that was presented at the American Psychological Association’s annual convention, texting can either bring two people close or drive them apart.
205 adults between the ages of 18 and 29 took part in a study that had questions on texting habits, emotional security, and relationship satisfaction. All the 205 adults were involved in romantic relationships. In the results of the study, it was found that the people who thought that their partners had a similar texting style, had a greater relationship satisfaction than the ones who did not.
Leora Trub, who presented the findings, said, “How couples texted was more important to the satisfaction of the relationship than how frequently they texted.”
According to Psychology Today, “For many people, texting is a major source of relationship communication. People age 17 to 25 tend to text their romantic interests more than older individuals do (Coyne, Stockdale, Busby, Iverson, & Grant, 2011). In one sample, over 90 percent reported texting to connect with a partner at least once a day (Schade, Sandberg, Bean, Busby, & Coyne, 2013). These habits form early. Teenagers report an impressively high rate of text-based communications with their boyfriends and girlfriends, with roughly 20 percent of teens who date texting their dating partner 30 times per hour or more during after-school hours or the early or late evening (Teenage Research Unlimited, 2007).”
Some of the reasons why texting is so frequently used by the young generation especially could be because it is easier and more convenient than face-to-face conversations. Even those with social anxiety can communicate better through text. Also, texting allows you to reply at your convenience without the need of answering to something with an urgency.
However, on a flip side, texting might leave a wider scope for misunderstandings. As it is difficult to judge the tone of a statement, some words may be interpreted. A lot of people in relationships today fight over text. There are higher chances of the fight increasing in intensity when you are texting your partner, rather than sorting it out over a call or in person. You cannot judge a person’s facial expressions and are completely in the blind about what they are conveying without actually saying while texting.
Also, increasingly people are judging others on the way they text. For example, if a person uses too many smileys, it is judged as ‘weird’, if someone uses too many exclamation marks, it is judged as ‘hyper’ and many people cannot stand those who use words like ‘uh’ for ‘you’.
How important is texting to you in a relationship?